Okay I'm going to get straight into this... I have been thinking about this a lot this week... didn't think it would be too hard... but definitely got me thinking about what's important to me.
I've linked this together because I guess when I'm talking about my marriage I want to include what that has evolved into... and that includes my two beautiful boys. I'm surprised marriage made in to number one on my list. Especially since when I was a child/teenager/young adult I NEVER thought I would get married. Partly because I've never really 'fit in' when I was growing up and was never the girl the boys wanted, but also because I was a bit of a dreamer when I was growing up. I wanted to be a doctor or a vet or save our forests and endangered species. Marriage was never something I wanted... although companionship is something I longed for. However, I met Darren and everything changed. Building a life with him became my priority. It's what I wanted. Now it is everything to me. Our marriage is far from perfect and we certainly have had our rough patches. But when it comes down to it, I love Darren, I know he loves me, and we will both do everything we can to keep it strong... 'til death do us part' xoxox A marriage involves so many values, trust, honesty, commitment, love... It is something I want my boys to see and value.
I tell my boys I love them every day and they tell me they love me. I often hear: "I love you Evan". "I love you too Royce". So amazing. I love my family and cherish them, even if we don't always get along. My boys are so lucky to have three Great-Grandparents who love them dearly. They may not understand it now, but in the future I hope they truly appreciate how lucky they are. Friends come under this category too for me. I don't have a huge amount of friends. Sometimes we get busy with life and don't see a lot of each other... but they are hugely important in my life and (I hope) they know that if they need me I will be there.
Something I think I have learned since meeting Darren and having our family. I was such a 'the glass is half empty' person when I was younger. I think I have turned that around... at least for the majority of the time. I think the love and support Darren has given me and the love I have for my boys has really helped me to develop this. Scrapbooking has also played a huge role. It has helped me to take notice of all the lovely little things in our life and showed me what a huge difference they make to our life. We only have one life... it may not be perfect, but surely there must be some good bits... enjoy them and cherish them.
This would have been number one for me when I was younger. It had definitely taken a back seat in my life at the moment, but is still and probably always be in the top 5. I loved school as a child. Loved reading and learning. Especially about science and our natural evironment. I studied science at uni and then finished my teaching degree just before I had Evan. I wanted children to grow up with the enthusiasm for learning that I had. I haven't really done any teaching yet, other than a handful of days relief teaching... I'm not sure I even want to now. I'm to involved with my boys. I don't want to teach full time and lose the ethusiasm I have. I want to give my boys all I can. My eldest son has been diagnosed with Autism. He is the most amazing little boy who looks at the world a lot like I did when I was little... with wonderment. He is re-teaching me at the moment the importance of this value.
I'm surprised this made it to my top 5... but I wanted to express the need to live life and enjoy life... make time to do the things you want to do. I guess I could have put this under love or learning. But I could also perhaps broaden this happiness.
Everyone has to have a passion in life. For my husband it is football and vintage motorcycles. For me it is scrapbooking and the environment. Now I'm not going to make out that I am a wonderful environmentalist who doesn't waste, always uses recycle products etc. I'm not. But I still love the outdoors. We live in the most beautiful country (Australia) and I fully appreciate that. In the future I would love to help injured native wildlife and get more involve in volunteer groups. Life at the moment is a little too busy, but in the future...
Scrapbooking is my outlet. It's my time to make a mess and play with fun things. It's also a time for me to look back at all the amazing memories... good and bad. It's me time. Me and Darren share each others passions too which is nice. I have my motorcyle licence (something I have wanted to do since I was little). And he can probably reel of more native plant species than me... he has a much better memory than me. These things help both of us be happier people which in turn makes for a happier marriage. Well most of the time... it is a balancing act. Anyway, I will always try to let my boys (with in reason... safety first) persue their passions. Nothing makes me happier than seeing my boys happy (even if they decide to play cricket... yuck).
Oh... and a bit of passion when it comes to our marriage doesn't go astray either ;-)
6, 7 and 8 - fun/laughter, health and open-mindedness
I just wanted to add what else I would add... and if I was writing this on a different day, these may have made it. FUN!!! Yep no explanation needed here. Laughing so hard that it hurts is something I would never say no to. Just last night my youngest had me in tears. I was saying to him while we were shopping that day that he knew too much and has been watching too much telly as he knew all the shops we went into. Then that night he's sitting on my knee when he looks at my bra strap and asks me if I'm wearing a 'genie bra'. For those who don't know, they are one of those TV shopping items... you know "but wait there's more!!!". Boy he made me laugh.
HEALTH. I'm lucky that my family and I are fairly healthy (although I could lose a few... okay quite a few kilos). I'm far from the healthiest person. My sister is a personal trainer and health fanatic. And this would easily be in the top three on her list. Me, well I think you can be healthy with out it taking over your life. I know I could do more excercise and eat better sometimes. But when I'm talking about health I'm just talking about feeling good. Mentally and physically. I feel good after a swim, but I feel just as good after a jump on trampoline or a ride on my scooter with my boys. I feel good after a cuppa and chat with a good friend. I make sure my boys get as much good food as possible. They both love salad will eat it till the cows come home... we eat a lot of salad. I want them active to. Sometimes they don't do enough of this, but most of the time they do.
Open-mindedness - This probably didn't make it to the list because I'm not sure how important it is to me... it's just part of who I am, although a lot of people I know probably wouldn't even realise how open-minded I am. Don't get me wrong, I certainly have my opinions... and sometimes I think I need to keep them to myself... but I am open to others. I can usually understand why they think that way. I don't always agree with people decisions, but in the end it's their decision. This is my life, and other peoples live are their lives. I'm also open to new ideas and new challenges. I'll pretty much give anything a go.
Well that's it. It's taken a while to get all this down... if your still with me thanks for hanging in there :-)